Gerri is troubled by running in to people from her past compromising the comfortable anonymity she enjoys in her Secret City. Imy reveals multiple awkward moments at BBQs in her Secret City and how she invoked vegetarianism and being “weird” as a sort of one size fits all talisman warding off the horror of social situations rendering them harmless. Gerri and Imy deep dive in to the undercurrents of interpersonal violence hidden within Australian Culture using their own stories, memories and experiences as necessary boogie boards to surf these choppy waves. In particular the case and use of sarcasm is explored in everyday life and in therapy, with consideration being given to a number of responses including chocolate, avoidance, props, being busy and a surprising paradoxical intervention, the use vulnerability was examined. Imy resurrects memories of childhood friends engaging in a constant stream of dissing or putting each other down and evaluates the efficacy and effects of this within Australian “Culture”. The issue of justice and righted past wrongs popped up but was not quite pinned down. #gloptrotter #womenpodcasters
Gerri is feeling a bit flat and discusses how her beloved cat Tiger copes with this by eating ‘sometimes’ food. Tiger is temporarily borrowed as a transitional object. Imy has had a big week and reflects on her coping strategies additional to reaching for ‘sometimes’ food. Naughty food available in both Secret Cities is discussed. Gerri reflects on the need for an Escape Plan, in lieu of Self Care since Self Care for Psychologists is likely to be a thwarted enterprise. Gerri concludes her Escape Plan, that is - to live on a balconied apartment in Berlin, is hedonistic and selfish. The sudden emergence of a powerful critic instigated a search for better Escape Plans. Alternate Escape Plans such as having a Coffee Shop in Byron Bay and the emotional impact of the traffic encountered when arriving in Byron Bay are reviewed. Gerri imagines the joy of unbridled carbs and flirts with an imagined free frolic in parklands of Berlin. Imy suggests expanding the vision with some “nude work” which Gerri soundly, emphatically and unreservedly rejects. Post WW2 Berlin is discussed and the role of history informing our understanding of the present is examined. The impact or the collective benefit of discussion or committing to dialogue in the present about difficult events in the past was further considered. #gloptrotter
Gerri is troubled by her ‘Clinical Psychologist’ identity receding when her Baby Boomer parents come to visit and she is compelled to take a Stay-Cation in her Secret City. The intergeneration conflict between perceptual biases of Baby Boomers and Gen X is explored and examined using primarily self report, generalisations and extrapolated viewpoint measures. Particular focus is given to the role of alcohol consumption, specifically the declining use of Cask Wine, and increased prevalence of body hair removal from the early nineties onward. Complexities of having an identity as a Psychologist are reviewed in terms of negotiating relationships with individuals outside a clinical role, juggling expectations of neighbours and friends, perceptions others have of Psychologists and the work they do inside and outside professional circles. The tendency of GPs to base their appraisal of psychological interventions on a personal reaction to the Psychologist concerned was found to be dominant. It was concluded that this phenomenon was in part due to wide spread confusion within the community about exactly what Psychologists are up to when they do “the work”.
Gerri & Imy begin by trying to uncover what motivates them to practice psychology and be a Psychologist. They both miss Oprah and ponder what it means do be “doing well” in the field. Themes of “being appreciated or not”, Jordan Peterson and the dominance/competence hierarchy, Psychology as largely a female dominated field, gossip in professional circles, women being ‘allowed’ to be angry now and that this is preferred to being compliant and docile but that this is also confusing for the men folk who are preoccupied with ducking the finger of blame - are all discussed. Jordan Peterson’s analysis and interpretation of the data and the ‘holes’ in the data is examined in some detail. Imy has a crack at dismantling Jordan’s position with one idea. This episode does reference sexual assault and sexual violence as a cultural phenomenon and so carries a trigger warning.